Stats

The study by Today's Christian Woman found that even good church-going women were peeking at the odd bit of porn. Over 34 percent of female respondents to an online survey said they had deliberately gone looking for porn.

Research by scientists at Stanford Medical University in California in December 2003 found that women become more quickly aroused by porn videos than men.

In late 2003, Neilsen Netratings revealed that 1 in 3 users of porn were women. Over 9 million American women accessed adult sites in September 2003 alone. According to Internet Filter Review, 13% of women are accessing porn at work.

In the past five years, the number of female directors of porn video and film has increased from a handful to 30, compared to about 200 male porn directors. (Mercury News 9.5.03)
As of 2003, only 4% of today's (non-erotic, Hollywood) films are directed by women. (BUST winter .03)

In 2002, over eight million adult videos and DVD were rented in America. 30% of those rentals went to women and "couples." (Adult Video News 1.03)

In women-friendly boutiques such as Good Vibrations, women make up 80% of the porn rental and purchase market (2003). These figures are never included in mainstream journal statisitcs (such as AVN).

In a 1987 Redbook survey of over 26,000 female respondents, nearly half stated that they regularly used porn.

In the 1996 book Defending Pornography by ACLU president Nadine Strossen, "Women, either singly or as part of a couple, constitute more than 40 percent of the adult videotape rental audience. . ."

The messages we receive about sex from our parents, the media, and our educational, social, and religious institutions tend to be contradictory, and often downright false. One way to combat the lies we’re told about sex is to start cataloguing them. Below is a very incomplete list of some of the biggest lies we’re told about sex.
Sex is genetic: it’s the puppet-master and we’re lucky to be getting our strings pulled now and then.Because procreation is tied to our species survival, evolutionary scientists and pop psychologists alike argue that the most important understanding of sexuality is the one that links our sexual behavior to procreation. Thus we are told that male sexuality is voracious and dangerous, that female sexuality is a side effect of the need for women to have babies, and that the psychological, emotional, and spiritual aspects of sexuality are not as important as the genetic ones.
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Take our on-line assessment and find out.www.womentowomen.comThere is clearly a genetic component to sex, but that doesn’t mean that this is either the most useful, or “truest” perspective from which to think about our sexuality.
Sex is natural and simple: you should just know how to do it.Sex is natural, we’re told, because we have to do it to survive. But this doesn’t accurately describe what human sexuality has become. Intercourse may be instinctual for some (but clearly not all) of us, but sexuality is much more than intercourse, and none of it actually comes easily. It’s it strange that we are taught how to perform most other basic human behaviors (how to eat, how to communicate, how to go to the bathroom) and as we get older we learn the more complicated ones (how to read, write, drive a car, work) and yet we’re just supposed to know how to have sex.
Sex is gender: men are from sex crazed mars women are from soft and romantic venus.This lie takes many forms:
Women just want to cuddle, men want to have raunchy sex.
Women are sexual communicators, men can’t talk about their sexual feelings.
”Real sex” takes place between a man and a woman.
Men and women can’t ever be friends, sex always gets in the way.
Men want sex all the time, and women don’t.
Men are more visual than women when it comes to sexual arousal. All of these are variations on the big double-shot sex lie; that sex is 100 percent tied to our gender, and we are all only one gender. The fact is that how we think about, feel about, and actually have sex is infinitely more complicated than which door we walk through in a public washroom.
Sex is spontaneous: don’t talk about it, just do it.When you think of it, this lie about sex doesn’t make any sense. If sex is meant to be something fun and exciting, something that makes you feel good about your body and yourself, makes you feel loved and attended to, why would planning for sex ever be a bad thing? Wouldn’t it actually be nice to know you’re going to get to have sex at the end of a particularly hard day? Yet we’re told that the most exciting sex is the sex that “just happens”. In reality sex rarely “just happens”. It’s true that many couples never talk about sex beforehand, but that doesn’t mean that one (or more likely both) partners aren’t thinking about it, wondering when they’re going to have it next, and fantasizing about what kind of sex it will be.
Bigger is better, more is better…better is better.These statements are true for some people, some of the time. The specific lie we’re told is that these things are true for everyone, all of the time. In reality people have size preferences that change depending on their mood and what sort of sex they want to have. Similarly, we all have different levels of sexual desire, and these levels can change throughout the month, and over the years. Finally, there is a more contemporary lie that tells us we should always be reaching for better sex, trying new things, pushing ourselves and our partners to attain new heights of great sex. Some researchers have pointed out that this competitive attitude can have the opposite effect, making us anxious and on edge about the sex we’re having.

questions

Top Ten Sex Questions of 2006

What are people really thinking about sex? When they can ask sex questions and get answers with anonymity, what do they really want to know?
Taking the sexual pulse of any society is near impossible. How can we distinguish media hype from actual experience when so few people talk openly and honestly about their sex lives, and even fewer people in power want to hear about it?
One small window for me into the world of the over 29 million of you who visit About.com each month is when I look at the traffic in the sex question and answer section on this site, where people write in their questions, and many more read the questions and answers I publish. Looking over this years most popular topics, I was not surprised to find penis size questions take up two spots. But I was pleasantly surprised at the breadth of topics most people were interested. From anatomy to technique, and from safer sex to sexual pleasure, considered as a whole, these top ten questions give me plenty of hope for the state of sexual inquiries in 2007.
1. How do I find my PC Muscle?
2. Can you alter the taste of your vagina?
3. Does penis size matter?
4. Is oral sex risky?
5. What is average penis size?
6. Why does sex hurt?
7. Can men have multiple orgasms?
8. Where is my g spot?
9. What are toxic sex toys?
10. Is watching porn okay?
Got a sex question for 2007? Email me here and I’ll do my best to answer it or point you to someone who can.

Women tips

Here's a few things some women do wrong:

1) LAYING THERE AND TAKING ITSome women seem to think that once they are on their backs, it's nap time, and the man can do all the work. Men need to have a woman participate - find his rhythym and move along with him. Caress his arms and back and chest. Run your fingers through his hair (if he has any ). All these things make sex a mutual experience.
2) GOING STRAIGHT FOR THE GOODIESSome women seem to go straight from a little kissing right to the pants. Many times a guy is just getting warmed up, and is not ready to have his penis manhandled like a chunk of pasta dough. Work your way down to it, kiss his chest and stomach, stroke his ass and thighs. By the time you reach the goal, he'll be completely ready for you.
3) PLAYING WITH HIS NIPPLES TOO EARLYMost of us like to have our nipples played with, but some of us have very sensitive ones. It takes a certain level of arousal for them to be ready for fingers or tongues. Use your whole hand or palm at first, and massage broad circles on the chest, slowly working your way down to just the nipple, and make sure you are paying attention to his reactions. Too much stimulation too early can be painful for some guys.
4) BOUNCING AROUND TOO MUCH ON TOPWhen you are on top, please be careful! The penis is not designed to withstand 100 pounds slamming down on it at the wrong angle. I swear, I thought the thing was going to get broken in half one time! Stay in control - when in doubt, it's better to lean forward and slide back and forth. That puts less weight on it, and can sometimes provide more stimulation on the clit, if you find the right angle.
5) EXPECTING TOO MUCHSome women take longer to orgasm than others. Some can take a very long time. If it takes you the better part of an hour to have one with your vibrator, don't expect us to give you oral for that long or more. There's only so much the human jaw can take. There comes a certain point, for both men and women, when, if it's just not happening, it's better to take matters into your own hands and give your partner a break.
And now the disclaimer: many of these things are a matter of opinion, my opinion. Just like many of Lioness's items are her personal preferences. Men and women both have many different likes and dislikes - the most important thing is to be open and receptive to what your partner likes and doesn't like, and work together to have a mutually satisfying sexual experience.