Preface: I have no reservations about teaching women to use an electric vibrator, especially if she's never had an orgasm.
The strong, consistent stimulation from these massage machines can make up for years of sensory deprivation. The general fear about using a vibrator is not being able to have "normal sex" whatever that means. I urge women to let go of their romantic notions about getting every orgasms from a lover, and I urge men to let go of proving their good in bed by giving a woman her orgasm. Instead, couples can bring a variety of sextoys into the bedroom. They'll have a lot more fun as sex becomes more playful. (Betty Dobson)
1. Genital Massage
Maintain an ongoing visual relationship with your genitals, and begin some selfloving sessions in front of a free standing mirror. Trimming and shaping your pubic hair can give you a heightened awareness and appreciation of your genitals. Oil and massage the entire area, pull back the hood to expose your clitoris. Then, spread your inner and outer labia, and admire the beauty and design of your vulva.
2. Using the PC Muscle
The PC or Pubococcygeus muscle goes around the anus, across the entire pelvic floor, and attaches in front to the pubic bone on both women and men. To locate this muscle, simply stop the flow of urine. A weak PC muscle will result in urinary incontinence. To keep your PC muscle toned, consciously squeeze and release it during masturbation and partnersex to intensify each orgasm. These contractions can be felt in the anus, vagina, clitoris, and penis.
3. Vaginal Penetration
I feel it's important to do some form of regular penetration to aerate the vaginal barrel, stimulate lubrication, and to moisturize the vaginal interior with natural cold pressed oils. Although I'm not motivated to learn how to ejaculate, I love squeezing my PC muscle on a dildo especially when I put pressure on my urethral sponge, or Female Prostate Gland. I prefer these names over G-Spot because they're less confusing.
4. Breathing
Like any other athletic activity, achieving orgasm requires taking in plenty of oxygen to fuel a body in motion. Building up sexual excitement and pumping blood into your genitals means breathing fully, especially when close to orgasm. There are many different breathing patterns. The most basic method is simply taking air in through your nose and exhaling out your mouth while making sounds of pleasure.
5. Pelvic Movement
Experiment with different rhythms as you masturbate to music. Sex is the dance of love so move your body, tensing and releasing different muscles, circling the hips, and thrusting with small motions or full pelvic swings. Gentle pelvic rocking can be perpetual motion throughout a selfloving session. Right after orgasm, your body naturally trembles and snaps with the after shocks and waves of pleasure.
6. Clitoral Stimulation
Using plenty of lubrication, start off with manual clitoral stimulation and then move onto the electric vibrator which is the strongest form of stimulation. To last longer, use a washcloth over your clitoris to cushion the vibes. Vary the rhythm and the pressure on your clitoris, keeping a light touch until the very end just before climaxing. When you have sex with your partner, bring your vibrator for a threesome.
7. Combining All Elements with Sexual Fantasy
Slow penetration, rhythmically squeezing the PC muscle, rocking the pelvis, and breathing out loud while using some form of clitoral stimulation will be different for each individual. Exploring your mind for erotic images, hot memories, or making up sexy stories heightens selfloving. Remember, variety and diversity spice up everyone's sexlife.
Thursday, February 22, 2007
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I enjoy reading your posts. Where ya been?
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